Toxic Relationships: The Year You Finally Thrive 2025 – Heal, Align, and Manifest Your Best Life!🌟

Make 2025 Your Year to Thrive: Heal, Manifest, and Transform Your Life

Ready to break free from toxic relationships and unlock your full potential in 2025? Join Dr. Amen Kaur on The Toxic Relationship Detox as we dive into the powerful connection between neuroscience and manifestation. Discover how to rewire your brain through neuroplasticity to create a life of abundance, love, and healing.

Learn how unresolved trauma, attachment styles, and psychological wounds influence your reality and relationships—and most importantly, how to overcome them. Dr. Kaur shares practical tools like visualization, breathwork, and trauma therapy to help you let go of old patterns and step into your best self.

This episode is packed with actionable insights:

• How to use gratitude to shift from negativity to abundance.
• The neuroscience behind vision boards and manifesting your dream life.
• Why aligning your head, heart, and gut is the key to thriving.
• Steps to form healthier, more fulfilling relationships after trauma.

If you're ready to embrace transformation, explore Dr. Kaur's Heal to Thrive Program and one-to-one coaching for deeper support. Start your journey toward healing and empowerment today—you deserve it.

Let’s make 2025 the year you thrive. 💖✨

Chapters

• 0:00 Neuroscience and Manifestation
• 11:40 Healing and Thriving in 2025
• 22:24 Healing for Thriving in 2025

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

It's time to thrive in 2025. Today, welcome back to the Toxic Relationship Detox, the podcast where we explore how to heal from toxic relationships, from the trauma, so that we can step into our full potential. My name's Dr Amon Kaur, and today we're gonna be diving into the fascinating intersection of neuroscience and manifestation, because 2025 is the year to thrive. You might have heard the phrases like you can attract what you are, or your vibe attracts what you want, and that can be sometimes really difficult to understand when we are recovering from trauma. So we're really going to dive into the neuroscience behind it and understand how it can make sense to us, given the scenario that we've been in. Stick around, because we'll be breaking down the science of how your brain creates your reality and how unhealed wounds can influence your relationship and success moving forward, especially if you want to really make this year yours. 2025 is the year to thrive. That is my new saying at the moment, and we're going to be looking at practical steps to heal and manifest your dream life. So, grab a cup of tea or enjoy your walk, or whatever it is that you're doing, get comfy and let's begin.

Speaker 1: 1:36

So let's start with the basics. What is this word? Manifestation. What is it that people talk about? What is the science behind it? At the core, manifestation is about setting a clear intention, rewiring your brain so it focuses on a goal, on that particular goal, and taking aligned actions to make it happen. Now, why is this so important for someone that has been in a toxic relationship? I don't know about you, but for me that was really difficult. When I was in a toxic relationship. I was confused, because what people don't realize is that when you are being gaslighted, when you have a part of your brain that is setting an intention and another part of your brain that holds a trauma is out of alignment of that goal, there's confusion, so there isn't alignment. The process isn't just woo-woo then. It's not just magic. It's actually based on neuroplasticity your brain all in alignment and has the ability to rewire itself so that it is in alignment. So you're the part of the brain that holds any overwhelming emotions or any trauma, which is the amygdala, and when we've been in a toxic relationship, there's enough research to show that we have trauma. Now. Complex PTSD is not some big traumatic experience. It's small traumatic experiences where we felt helpless and hopeless. That is now wired into our brain and that's why we get triggered. We might have anxiety. That affects our nervous system as well.

Speaker 1: 3:37

Neuroscience explains that manifestation starts with raised awareness. Think about it If you're repeating the same mistakes and it's wired in, say, for instance, it's wired into your nervous system, your brain, your neuroplasticity is going in one direction that I'm not good enough, or I always make mistakes, or it's my fault, for I always make mistakes, or it's my fault. And remember, when we're dealing with a toxic relationship, we are constantly being told that it's your fault. You should feel guilty for having any of your own needs, and that's why there's this feeling of being stuck. You might want something, but automatically your brain is now saying you can't have it. It's bad to have your needs met. You should feel guilty. It's, it's.

Speaker 1: 4:32

There's a shift, there's a change, and trauma creates these neural pathways that make us feel unworthy. That make us feel unworthy, that make us feel unsafe to move forward, to step out of our comfort zone. And there's also another scenario where our nervous system is just in a state where we feel exhausted at times, like we don't have the energy to do it. So these pathways influence how we think, act and even the types of people we attract moving forward. But this is the good news you can rewire your brain and 2025 is your year. Here's how we start with awareness. The most important thing that you can do is just notice, get curious, notice the patterns. What's holding me back? Because those patterns are going to still hold you back in 2025, but the way you can overcome those patterns is just by awareness and some of the tools that you can use, like visualization and deliberately practicing to replace old behaviors with new ones. Let me explain.

Speaker 1: 5:55

So, say, if you find that you're always doing something, you want to achieve something, but there's an old belief or an old behavior that keeps coming up, like you're anxious. Imagine yourself doing something different when you feel those feelings. Like you find some tools, some breath work, some trauma therapy, and you use those tools instead of allowing yourself to follow the same. So I'll give you an example. Say, if I'm getting up in the morning and I'm just dreading going to work because I feel anxiety over the fact that I'm going to make a mistake and my boss is going to tell me off, if you've got a toxic boss. If you've got a toxic boss. So I would wake up that morning and I would visualize myself having a fantastic day first, where everything is easy, everything is going well, and perhaps I even visualize that I've got a new boss and I've got an amazing relationship with them. Then I imagine okay, what are the things that might go wrong today? I might make a mistake. So I deliberately practice in my mind that I'm making a mistake and, instead of feeling anxiety, I just breathe and laugh it off. I do, I just breathe and laugh it off. Yeah, or I wake up in the morning and I do some trauma therapy, so I don't feel that kind of anxiety and worry about making mistakes. So then you're replacing old behaviors with new ones.

Speaker 1: 7:44

One of the biggest mistakes and reasons why we feel stuck is also because of our inner child, or our shadow self. The inner child carries unhealed wounds from childhood and we all have them. Even if you've had the best childhood, there would be moments where you didn't feel safe, loved, worthy. Even if you didn't get abused, you might have spent a lot of time by yourself. These wounds can create subconscious beliefs like I'm not good enough, or I don't deserve love, or everyone's too busy for me. I feel lonely. This shadow self is different, but is equally important because it hides the part of you that you don't want others to see, and you don't want others because you think other people won't accept that part, because it it makes you angry or vulnerable, or it's maybe it's your ambition and you're scared that people are going to think that you're, and you're scared that people are going to think that you're too ambitious or you're too vulnerable or you're too needy, or you feel triggered that you're not loved. But here's the thing both your inner child and your shadow self control your subconscious mind. They control you at times. So there might be times where, if you don't address it, it takes over and those situations you feel like, oh, I've got to hide that part of me, but they'll still attract people in situations that match those wounds. So, for instance, for me, growing up in a way where I didn't feel good enough, I had kind of partner, one that triggers our deepest insecurities until we're able to heal that inner child because our brain is stuck in a loop. So one exercise you can do is start journaling. What do you remember from childhood about love and safety and what do you remember about times where you might have felt lonely? Try and understand what those wounds could be. Maybe you write a letter to your inner child reassuring them that they're safe now, it's okay now. That could be a step forward.

Speaker 1: 10:41

Next, let's talk about one of the simplest, most powerful tools for healing gratitude. Gratitude isn't a nice idea. It's a neuroscience backed tool. When you practice gratitude, your brain releases oxytocin, and oxytocin is the love hormone, and truly what we're missing after being in a toxic relationship is the ability to create oxytocin in our own brain. We don't need someone else to love us as such, okay. We don't need the toxic person to tell us that we're lovable. We can actually start feeling oxytocin within our own self and create it. It's actually created by our brain and it shifts you out of stress and fear driven by cortisol, into a state of trust and possibility. We're not getting the love that we deserve.

Speaker 1: 11:40

One of the things that we could do at the end of the day is write down three things you're grateful for. It can be small, like I enjoyed my morning coffee today, or I enjoyed listening to Ammon today, or something big, like I had a supportive conversation with a friend. Please don't keep talking about what this toxic person has done, because you're wiring that into your brain as well all the bad things that they've done. What you want to do, maybe, is talk about things that make you feel loved. Perhaps you've got a dog. You want to spend some time to pet your dog before you go to sleep. That, too, releases oxytocin.

Speaker 1: 12:24

Here's why this works. Gratitude rewires your brain to focus on abundance instead of lack, and what the narcissist is all about is separation, lack not being good enough, putting you down, seeing what's not right about you, whereas connection and your true self is focused on being with others, connecting to others, feeling love, and over time, this practice will shift your perspective, naturally helping you feel safer and more open to opportunities. Now, look, there could be times where none of this is really working because of the trauma that you're experiencing. Then it might be that you do need trauma therapy. It's something that if these things try, all of these things, but if it is that you have trauma, you will need to help rewire your brain to heal the trauma. But gratitude is an incredible tool.

Speaker 1: 13:30

Let's move on to something fun and a practical tool. It's called vision boards, or what I like them to call them, action boards. Creating a vision board isn't just about visualizing the life that you want and taking small, consistent steps to bring it into reality. The images on your board need to reflect goals that feel aligned with your current healing journey. For example, if you're healing from narcissistic trauma, you might include a photo of a peaceful home to symbolize safety, or words like boundaries or self-love, or a picture of supportive friendships, or you doing yoga or Tai Chi you know something that really helps you heal and feel calm and peace. And always leave some space on your board symbolizing room for the universe to bring you opportunities that you might not have even imagined. Or put on the board things like or something even better yeah, because you could have this or something even better. That you're leaving room for the universe to bring you something even better than you can even imagine, something quite nice that makes you even. That can sometimes lift us up to thinking yeah, let's bring some miracles, some manifestations, some connection to the universe, to God, to the creator, into this.

Speaker 1: 15:16

Finally, let's speak about relationships. Why do we keep attracting the same type of partners after trauma? Sometimes it comes down to the attachment style as well. There's the level of psychological wounds that you carry. Neuroscience shows us that we often bond with people that mirror our own wounds If you're experiencing betrayal or neglect, you might unconsciously this is the important part unconsciously seek partners who recreate that dynamic. The way to break free from this is to heal your attachment style by learning to self-soothe, by learning that you're allowed space and to self-regulate. Set boundaries that honour your worth, and in order to that, you need to feel worthy. If we have guilt, then we need to work through and release the guilt so we feel worthy, so that we can set boundaries and surround yourself with people who model healthy love. So be around people. Look for couples that show you healthy love.

Speaker 1: 16:40

I want to share something profoundly inspiring 2025 is your year to thrive. This isn't just a hopeful mantra. It's a call to action for all of us. The real question isn't about what the world is experiencing, what other people are experiencing. The real question is what will you experience? And here's a perspective that shifted it for me. We have not come here to suffer, to live in lack or limitation or to remain in old patterns just because they're the patterns that we've experienced before. It really isn't about remaining stuck in them. We are here to thrive individually and together, collectively, and yet many of us feel paralyzed, stuck between what we think we should do and what our hearts and guts tell us to pursue.

Speaker 1: 17:50

Why does this happen? Because we have three brains. We have the head brain, the heart brain and the gut brain, and often they are out of alignment. Neuroscience has revealed that our heart and our gut have neurons, just like our head brain, where these centres conflict. So say, if your head is telling you one thing but your heart is saying another and your gut is telling you another, where there's conflict, we feel torn, we feel unsure, we feel incapable of taking meaningful steps forward. It's this alignment that creates paralysis, confusion, a sense of being stuck in life. The solution is bringing these centers into alignment.

Speaker 1: 18:45

Start with your heart. What does your heart truly desire in 2025? What brings you joy and peace? Then tune into your gut. What feels right deep in your core. Trust your intuition is guiding you towards alignment. Engage your mind. How does your thoughts and plans support you? What your gut and heart already know to be true? When these three centers work together, you move from feeling stuck to thriving. And, honestly, you are so powerful. When you're in alignment, you can anything. You can get out of any situation, you can heal and transform your whole life. That's why 2025 is your year to thrive. You become clear, confident and ready to create the life you deserve this alignment on how we can truly flourish, even in a world of uncertainty, even in a world with toxic individuals.

Speaker 1: 20:06

If you've taken one thing from today's episode, let it be this Healing is the foundation of creating the life that you want. You can't build the life you deserve while carrying the weight of unhealed trauma. Start small, practice daily gratitude. Create a vision board with meaningful goals. Work on self-awareness. Remember healing is possible. You don't have to live with trauma, but every step brings you closer to the life you are meant to live, where you feel alive, where you feel 2025 is the year to thrive. What if your life could be and feel like heaven on earth? What if it's true? If today's episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear this message, and don't forget to leave a review or give this podcast a rating. It really helps us reach more people on their healing, and a shout out to the people who support others in their healing.

Speaker 1: 21:24

I spoke to a courageous woman recently and she shared with me something that nearly brought me to tears. It's to do with a policewoman and if you're listening. You're a policewoman in Canada, that's all I know. That told her to listen to this podcast. I just I don't know who you are, but I want to just say thank you because you're in a position that you can reach people. This lady, as a policewoman, saw this woman that had a toxic relationship. This policewoman validated her that she wasn't going crazy and you gave her a lifeline out from the abuse. And this lady is now going to be joining my Heal to Thrive community and my Heal to Thrive program and it's totally touching and extremely humbling that we have a community here. You're making this a better place.

Speaker 1: 22:24

The more people that can heal from trauma, the lighter and more meaning we give ourselves from our own experiences.

Speaker 1: 22:32

It actually lightens our burden that we can be part of giving someone else relief from pain and we know what that pain feels like.

Speaker 1: 22:43

And there's so many people that don't understand what this is. But we can recognize another person who's been in a toxic relationship. And if you are interested in making your 2025 your time to thrive, please do look in the resources section. You can look into Linktree and apply for a one-to-one session with me so I can look at what is it that you need to move forward and, if it makes sense, we can look at getting you on boarded to the heal to thrive program because so that you can thrive in 2025, if that is what you need, if you need some support, if actually you've tried everything yourself and you can't do it by yourself and then it's trauma that you really need support with. So look into the link tree. I don't know how long I'm going to be able to do these one-to-one sessions so that you can be part of this Heal to Thrive program. Until next time, remember you are worthy of love, healing and all the abundance that life has to offer. Sending you so much love Till next time.