Toxic Relationships: The Truth About Money, Power & Narcissistic Abuse

Money wounds run deeper than an empty bank account. They’re energetic imprints left by those who weaponized financial control against your self-worth. When narcissists devalue you, they’re not just attacking your character—they’re severing your connection to abundance.

Financial struggles after toxic relationships aren’t random. They result from absorbing the silent message that you don’t deserve more. Your nervous system, wired for survival, makes it hard to trust yourself, recognize opportunities, or believe in your capabilities. This isn’t your fault—but it is your responsibility to heal.

Survivors who release the weight of devaluation see their finances shift. They land higher-paying jobs, start businesses, or attract unexpected income. And here’s the truth—these shifts don’t come from financial strategies alone. They happen when you heal the four core pillars that determine whether money flows or stagnates:

✨ Spiritual: Releasing subconscious beliefs implanted during devaluation.
✨ Certainty: Replacing doubt—the #1 block to financial miracles—with unshakable faith in your worth.
✨ Alignment: Tuning into your higher self through prayer—not just asking for money but receiving guidance on your next steps.
✨ Action: Moving beyond trauma-reactive choices into aligned, purposeful action.

Healing isn’t passive. It’s about clearing the emotional blocks that stand between you and abundance—lifting each weight of fear, shame, and doubt, and setting it aside. The work is challenging, but what’s on the other side isn’t just financial freedom—it’s the full reclamation of your power.

And remember: no one devalues someone unless they are valuable to begin with. Your worth is untouchable. When you reconnect with that truth, financial transformation isn’t just possible—it’s inevitable.

The question isn’t whether you’re capable of abundance—you’ve already proven your strength by surviving.

The real question is: Are you ready to release what’s blocking you from receiving what’s already yours?

Chapters

• 0:00 Financial Trauma Beyond Money
• 8:38 Four Core Pillars of Financial Miracles
• 15:12 Spiritual Work: Transforming Self-Worth
• 29:17 Certainty: The Key to Financial Doors
• 43:12 Prayer: Aligning with Your Higher Self
• 54:58 Taking Inspired Action and Reclaiming Control
• 1:07:05 Healing Journey and Final Encouragement

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

What if I told you that healing from financial trauma isn't just about money. It's also about reclaiming your power and you will know this if you've been in a toxic relationship that sometimes it's everything. It seems to be all mixed up the power and control over you. They have power and control over your money. Power and control over you. They have power and control over your money. They have power and control over your presence, in terms of how present you are or who you really are. They have power and control over your purpose of actually fulfilling your purpose.

Speaker 1: 0:38

One of the biggest transformations I've seen in my Heal to Fry program is that people release the devaluation they experience in toxic relationship and their financial situation shifts dramatically. They start landing higher paid jobs, start businesses, start changing careers, start letting go of those subconscious wounds that are keeping them stuck. I, too, totally understand this because I have experienced financial abuse firsthand. Even today, my ex doesn't contribute to any child maintenance for the kids and while that's completely frustrating and it's difficult to manage everything, I also know it's about something much deeper. We are put into these situations to break free from the devaluation, to heal our self-worth and to step into our power because we truly reclaim our wealth. My name is Dr Eamon Core, and today I want to share with you four core pillars that determine whether financial miracles start flowing effortlessly or if money remains a struggle. And this is something that is so important to look at because it is such a huge part of narcissism, because narcissists believe they are entitled to all the money, to everything, and you don't need anything because you're not even a human being, if you like, but they leave you so devalued because of the cycle of devaluation, of the cycle of devaluation. So we're going to be looking at four core pillars, and these are the same principles that made millionaires and financially free people have mastered, so let's dive in. So, number one, we really need to look at the spiritual work transforming the root of financial struggles.

Speaker 1: 2:44

Your financial reality is actually a reflection point of your subconscious self-worth, and this isn't something that you should be putting yourself down about. It's really about understanding our self-worth. When it's impacted. It does impact our ability to work. We don't seem to believe and trust in ourself in the same way as we used to, and sometimes, if you've been in toxic relationships over and over again, we get to a point where we don't even believe we deserve financial ease, support, and we start to subconsciously block ourself from receiving it because there could be some programming around. If you receive wealth, if you receive recognition, you're going to be punished, because that is what happens in a toxic relationship.

Speaker 1: 3:35

You get love bombed, you're told you're amazing and then you get devalued, which is devaluation. They're telling you you're not good enough. I really want to look at this as well, because devaluation what is this? Devaluation is when our worth is being compared to somebody else, and you will remember there's been times where they've told you that so-and-so does this and you don't do that. And so-and-so does that. And they are able to do these amazing dinner parties and you don't do that. And so-and-so does that, and they are able to do these amazing dinner parties and you don't do that. Whatever it is, they make you feel that you're not as valuable as the next person.

Speaker 1: 4:14

If we look at, say, social media, for instance, we're only seeing a small snippet of their life. We're not seeing everything. We're not seeing all their fears, all the things that they've done wrong, all the shame and the guilt and all the things that are hiding from you. And, believe me, every single person has something to hide. Every single person has done something as a human being that they wish they hadn't done, especially as you're growing up. We've done things that we wish we hadn't done to somebody else. It's all part of learning, though, right, sometimes we're going to say something to upset someone, not meaning to, not intentional, and sometimes, maybe in your younger years, when you was a teenager, it's your ego when we're teenagers. Was a teenager is your ego. When we're teenagers, we are a bit self-absorbed. You might have been amazing, but I think majority, including myself, was a little bit more self-absorbed than I am now, so that's okay. So there's going to be things, whilst we're growing up and learning, that we've done that we wish we had never done, and we're carrying that shame and guilt around and we're hoping that no one will see that, those things about us. Well, that person that you're seeing on social media and you're seeing a snippet of their amazing life has the same thing. They're just showing you one snippet of their life.

Speaker 1: 5:44

So what are we doing when we're comparing, or when the narcissist is comparing? They're comparing the imperfections of you with the perfections of someone else. Really, take this on board the imperfections of you with the perfections of someone else? That doesn't make sense. If you're going to really look and compare, then we need to have a holistic view. They have imperfections too. Let's compare it, let's get it out all on the table. But they're not doing that because we don't know what everybody else's imperfections are.

Speaker 1: 6:16

We can get to a point when we've been devalued from somebody over and over and over again because we've also got our own baggage that we're carrying and we start to believe that we're not valuable enough, that subconsciously we start blocking ourselves from receiving all the goodness in the world. And money wounds happen from toxic relationships because if you think about narcissism, they're always looking at what they can get. It's always what can I get out of that person. So they're going to be looking at what can I get from you financially as well, and you're potentially a giver because you're wanting love. So it's very common for there to be financial abuse, control, manipulation. That happens and they plant deep beliefs through experiences that say I'm not good enough or I must struggle to survive or I can never have more than them because I'm going to be punished.

Speaker 1: 7:20

Otherwise, if you've been gaslit, you may undervalue your skills in the workplace. You might start seeing that you don't have the same level of confidence that you used to. You might start having anxiety at work where you're shrinking your financial expectations, where you're not motivated like you used to. That's because your nervous system also starts going into survival mode and it does impact the way we operate in the world and we might struggle to hold on to money. So healing starts with awareness. The moment you recognize that actually I'm not pushing myself, I'm not achieving like I used to after this relationship, then you have to know that something has changed in that relationship. And if you just look at the facts narcissism you go through cycles of love, bombing, devaluation and discard. So discard is where you get punished if you don't fulfill what they want you to do. So discard is where you get punished if you don't fulfill what they want you to do. So that's where we need to recognize these patterns. And when we start to recognize these patterns, we're able to do something about it then.

Speaker 1: 8:35

So one of the questions that you can ask yourself where in your life do you think you hold on to financial fear or limitation? Right now, what beliefs around money were programmed into you by your past relationships, maybe even growing up? The other thing that we really want to talk about is how certainty is so important, belief and trust in yourself is so important. Doubt or self-doubt is the number one block to financial miracles, to feeling that lucky self, to things happening Because you could be doing everything right, you could be working so hard, but if you deep down, believe that you're going to be, money is not possible for you or things are really difficult, or you're fearing the fact how am I going to survive? And that's what a lot of toxic people do is they get you in a position where you're tied in financially and you don't know how to survive and it is a sinking ship and you don't know what you're going to do. But the fear can be the major block to do. But the fear can be the major block.

Speaker 1: 9:50

Certainty, faith, self-belief is the thing. It's like the energetic key to opening a financial door, the key you have to believe and trust in yourself. Like I can do this, I know I can do this. Imagine there's a gatekeeper at the door to abundance. They're saying are you certain you want to be here? Are you certain you want to have money? Are you certain? So one thing is to really look at creating certainty instead of saying I hope money comes in. Money is already flowing to me, me, it is coming. I have made my Amazon request is the same. I've made my request. I know I trust and believe in myself, I can do this. Money is coming and instead of I wish I could get paid more. I am worthy of being paid more, I am valuable Instead of I don't know how the way will reveal itself to me. The moment you start to embody certainty, you start to collapse. Time. You can take years and suddenly things happen in months. And this is what I've seen with people again and again in the Heal to Thrive program, because what they're doing is they're releasing the trauma that creates things like fear, uncertainty, disbelief, the pain, the emotional pain of receiving and actually allowing that abundance, et cetera, to come through. So if you are interested in doing the Heal to Fry program, if any of this resonates with you, then please do look in the resources section at the start of this description and you can apply to book in for a one-to-one with me and we can see if you're aligned to do the Heal to Fry program.

Speaker 1: 11:43

The number three, I think, is really important in this whole scenario and I really, really I love my science. I absolutely love it, but I really have a spiritual theme going on, because when I was going through this toxic detox, I had to focus on prayer aligning with my highest path, aligning with my highest self. Prayer is not just asking, it's actually aligning. It's tuning into your higher vibration. It's tuning into your true self. It's about releasing all the blocks that are stopping you, resisting the true higher self that can guide you, that can support you, that can tell you okay, actually, this is what you need to do next. It's your gut, it's your instinct, it's your heart neurons. It's your gut neurons. We know now in science there are heart neurons. There's gut neurons. It's knowing that what you've got to do next.

Speaker 1: 12:48

Instead of resenting someone who owes you money, invoice the universe, say, hey, this is how much is owed me. I'm sending you the invoice. You find a way for me to be paid. Instead of expecting people like my ex, who's never, who's just going to keep dodging, to take care of the children, and even though they are his children, all I can assume is that he just doesn't have the capability to understand he's's impacting his own children, and most people can see that. But there must be a reason why he can't, and that must be because he might not have the empathy. So, instead of me expecting him to pay, I can expect the creator to provide in unexpected ways. So how do we pray for financial expansion? We speak in the present. We say thank you for all the opportunities that are coming into my life right now.

Speaker 1: 13:51

And if you feel you can't get to that point, is there trauma? Is there emotion coming up? Is there a feeling of guilt and shame? Really have a feel. Is there fear? Is there a belief? Then start removing them. If I said to you right now, you know what? There's all these blocks? Okay, there's some stumps here, there's some blocks, and on the other side is your wealth, the money that you want, everything that you want, the happiness, the joy, the lie that you want would you just stand there and say, okay, I'm not going to bother, or would you start removing some of those blocks and putting them on the side, finding a way, removing them, putting behind you, letting them go?

Speaker 1: 14:40

You pick one up, put it behind you, start clearing the space, finding a way through. It might be your emotion, some trauma that's still stuck there. Okay, pick it up. Is it a bit of shame? Let's move it, let it go, move it behind you, and that's what we do in the trauma work. Is there a belief system? Ah, let's start releasing that. Let's move it behind you. Is there a fear? Is it your nervous system? Okay, let's start releasing that fear and resetting your nervous system. Let's move it behind you. That's what you have to do and really trust the process that I will find a way through. That's why the key, the certainty, is so important. It gives you the energy to go. You know what. I know I'm worth it, I'm going to find all the stuff and I'm going to invest the time and the effort to actually pick up these things and move it behind me, because I know, on the other side of this, I'm going to get to where I am.

Speaker 1: 15:46

So the other thing is we have to take the action. We have to take inspired action. Manifestations and things like that, where people think, okay, I'm just going to sit here and do a meditation or hope. Nothing is passive. It does require action, but it actually requires aligned action.

Speaker 1: 16:08

A lot of the time, what people are doing is they're reacting to what's happened and it's their trauma that is doing the actions. That's not going to help you. It's just going to help you stay in the scenario that you are. So it's literally you're going around and around in circles and you're not actually making any progress moving forward. Circles and you're not actually making any progress moving forward. But if you start to take aligned action, what that is is you're aligning with your higher self and you start taking those actions. Then you start releasing and moving forward and knowing what you need to release so that you can start moving forward in the right direction. They will guide you. You will get the guidance of what you need to do. Next, if we start looking at spiritual millionaires, they don't just pray, they do show up and do the work. So people like Deepak Chopra or there's so many different people that have actually done the work to write that book, to take the action. A lot of these people like Richard Branson. If you actually look and listen to a lot of their interviews, you will find that they use their gut instinct a lot. They do so.

Speaker 1: 17:26

Financial trauma can show up in daily habits where you're avoiding looking at your bank details, You're resisting making financial plans, you're staying in jobs or businesses that underpay you or relationships that devalue you. Staying in a job that underpays you is a toxic environment. They're devaluing what you're offering. Staying in a relationship where they're taking everything of value away from you and you're doing most of the work is it's typical in a toxic relationship. I mean, that's what? Exactly what I did for years.

Speaker 1: 18:04

But we have to take back financial control. I would say we need to see money a little bit like a person. If we were to personify money. How much time do you spend on treating money with care, with love, with respect? Maybe set a money date with yourself each week and just imagine that you're talking and you're telling them that all your fears and your worries and you're asking for support back. It's just building your relationship back with money and then you can get to a point where you're starting to work through some of the problems, each one a bit at a time. Learning how to manage your money and invest your money is important. Even if you start investing $5 or $1 a month I know it sounds crazy, but the next month maybe you do $2. Then you do $4. Then you do $8. Just even small ways. You're saying I am going to work through this one way or another and then you start taking bold action towards the next financial goal and the next financial goal.

Speaker 1: 19:16

If you want to start shifting your financial reality and you've been in a toxic relationship we must align to all four quadrants. So ask yourself am I doing the inner work Truly? Quadrants, so ask yourself am I doing the inner work truly? Do I have a hundred percent certainty in myself and my capability and my value and what I'm here to do? Like, what purpose I have here? Am I aligned through prayer? Am Am I taking action constantly For me?

Speaker 1: 19:58

What I've seen through my clients is when people start really looking at their own presence, their self, and really understanding who they are, their true self. Everything comes from there your power to know that you are powerful, because it's coming from a divine place, it's coming from a space of understanding and healing your relationship with power, because a lot of these toxic relationships are here to teach us and recreate our relationship with power and understand the power is within you. That's what they're after. And then really looking at your purpose what is your purpose for yourself? And then the prosperity comes because you start taking action aligned with what it is that you're needing to do. If you're not struggling financially because you're incapable, I know you're capable because you've been through a toxic relationship. You are super strong and no one's going to be coming along trying to devalue you unless you were valuable in the first place. You are struggling because you were taught to devalue yourself, but you are actually valuable. But the moment you start to break free from that programming, that trauma, everything starts to shift.

Speaker 1: 21:20

So if this episode resonated with you, please make sure, rate the podcast, because it actually helps more people find this and I want to help as many people as I can. And if you're ready to step into that financial healing and abundance, then please do book in a one-to-one session with me you can find the link in the description because the next chapter of your life starts here today. Let's do it. And I just say thank you so much for listening. I really, really appreciate you so much. If it wasn't for you, I wouldn't be continuing to do what I'm doing and find a way through. So I appreciate you so, so, so much, sending you so much love Till next time.