The Enemy Inside: Breaking Free from Toxic Patterns and Rising Into Wealth & Leadership

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That feeling of being trapped in a life too small for your soul?
It’s not a punishment.
It’s your invitation to rise.

We all wrestle with this paradox:
 We are limitless spiritual beings operating within human constraints—creating a war within between who you truly are and the patterns that keep you small.

When you’re stuck in toxic relationships or limiting circumstances, it’s easy to pour your energy into helping others heal while neglecting your own expansion. You believe that if you can just control everything—especially yourself—you’ll feel safe. But that is the great illusion.

Certainty doesn’t exist.
Uncertainty is not your enemy—it’s the only guarantee.
And it’s the exact space where growth, wealth, healing, and leadership are born.

Picture yourself as a chick outgrowing its shell—that painful constriction isn’t a sign to retreat.
It’s the pressure that precedes your breakthrough.

Every barrier you meet when stepping toward your next level?
 It’s not an obstacle—it’s proof you’re expanding beyond old limitations.

Sometimes the force required to break through?
 It’s healthy anger—that sacred fire that moves you from shutdown into powerful action.
Especially for those conditioned to believe anger is shameful—this is your permission slip:
Rage can be holy. It can fuel your rise into power and prosperity.

To rise, you must confront four critical gateways:

• Your thinking patterns
• Your emotional landscape
• Your bodily sensations
• Your spiritual connection

Above all, choose to hold faith in what you cannot yet see.
Just as the universe was created from nothing, you too hold the divine power to create something from nothing.
This is your inheritance.
This is legacy-building.

Are you ready to break through your shell and lead from power, presence, and prosperity?
Whether you’re called to heal your wealth story through The Prosperity Code™,
regulate your nervous system,
or break free from trauma bonds—

Chapters

• 0:00 Trapped in a Life Too Small
• 1:45 The War Within Ourselves
• 3:22 Uncertainty as an Invitation
• 7:34 Breaking Through Your Shell
• 12:33 Four Areas to Examine
• 16:32 Resources and Next Steps

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Have you ever felt trapped in a life that feels too small for your soul, like you're living in a box that was never meant for you? Maybe it's a toxic relationship, maybe it's fear. But what if I told you that feeling isn't like your enemy. It's actually an invitation. You're standing at the edge of chaos, unsure which way to turn. This is actually an invitation to lean in.

Speaker 1: 0:34

The truth is, every human being is struggling. Why? Fundamentally, because we are limitless spiritual beings forced to operate within the confines of this human experience. It can feel like we're at war with ourselves. Should I leave? Should I go? Should I move forward? Should I fulfill my dreams? I want to fulfill my dreams, but I'm not good enough. There's like a complete war at stakes all the time. There's a psychiatrist called Phil Stutz powerfully names it as that.

Speaker 1: 1:12

We have all an enemy inside. Unfortunately, some of us enemies outside of us as well. It makes it really hard to navigate life. There's a part of us inside of ourselves that thrives on doubt, fear, uncertainty. It convinces us that we have to be protected from pain, but in reality it's actually keeping you from stepping into your full potential. And this happens a lot in codependent relationships because we are focusing on the other person, trying to help them, whilst not helping ourself. We end up spending our whole life sometimes trying to help them navigate their pain, but never actually allowing ourselves to step into our full potential. And here's the kicker Someone else's ego can trigger the enemy inside of us, reinforcing those old patterns that say to us look, stay small, stay safe, don't rise, you're not going to be able to. You're not safe, you're not going to be able to. You're not safe, you're not going to be able to make the money that you need. You need to stay with me. But what if I told you that inner enemy that's inside of you isn't here to destroy you. It's actually, maybe, maybe even a portal to power, to real, authentic power. Today we're diving deep into a sacred space where science means spirituality, where uncertainty can become your greatest ally and I know right now, a lot of us, due to a lot of changes in governments, etc. May be feeling uncertain right now. And this is where you can reclaim your divine ability to create something from nothing. Stay with me, okay.

Speaker 1: 3:15

This is about healing, mastering your presence, unlocking prosperity coded within your DNA. You didn't come here to play small when you were a young child. You came here because you had something important. You have a gift and you came here to lead to heal, to create legacy, whether it's a legacy in creating wealth, prosperity, creating a new movement, something, something you were here to do something.

Speaker 1: 3:48

I want to share something vulnerable with you. There was a time where I believed I could, if I could just control everything in terms of control myself, be a better person. I was adapting myself to control the outside world so that they wouldn't react in a certain way, as if I knew what the outcome would be, and I would then finally feel safe. I don't know if you can relate to that, but that's an illusion that somehow certainty or having certainty will save me. But here's the truth.

Speaker 1: 4:32

Uncertainty is the only guarantee. Certainty is an illusion. Nothing stays the same. We can look at this in nature and we cling to this like we can strengthen the part of us within ourself to stay safe, to be certain. It sabotages us within ourself. It's like it's holding us, conforming us within, like these four walls, if you like, and we're not allowed to go outside of this inner structure that we know, and if we go outside of it, we feel uncertain.

Speaker 1: 5:15

There's this part of us that whispers you're not ready yet, you don't have all the skills. You need more proof, you need validation. You don't actually know. You need to ask someone, and that happens a lot when we've been in toxic relationships. And it shows up not just in our minds but in our bodies because our nervous system reacts. It creates anxiety, nervous system dysregulation, scarcity, thinking, thinking that you can't do, because it limits. It's the part that limits, okay. So there's a part that is unlimited within you and then there's a part that limits you. This is where science and spirituality can merge. Neuroscience knows that the brain is wired to avoid uncertainty, that is wired up to limit you in a way. There's a part of the brain that actually filters. That part of us is actually craving safety.

Speaker 1: 6:20

But actually growth, healing, creation all happen in the unknown. This is what you used to do when you were a child. You used to create. You didn't know what was going to happen the next day, but it was all like a miracle. Oh my gosh, this butterfly is amazing, this food is amazing, or this crayon is amazing and you just draw. You didn't have to draw to please somebody. You just draw like a blob and think it was amazing, but there's a part of us that is always fighting you every step of the way, especially as you grow older and especially if we've been around people that limit us. What we have to do is actually lean into our next level.

Speaker 1: 7:07

One of the biggest breakthroughs I ever had was learning the concept of there's like a box that we're living in. You could imagine it like a frame. The frame is the way you see the world. It's your map, it's your comfort zone and when life challenges the frame whether it's loss, betrayal, toxic relationships, breakdown, a loss of a job, wealth issues it feels like you're losing your whole identity. It's like a death. It genuinely feels like that way and especially when we've been in a toxic relationship, there's so many parts of you that have had to die. But here's how we can reframe that. It's not actually a death. It's like an explosion that's happening to you. It's happening for you, so you can break free, because every breakdown is like the soil for your breakthrough.

Speaker 1: 8:05

Imagine a little chick is in its kind of shell, is coming across this shell and it's like I can't get through. But that feeling of being pained inside this small area and it's squashing you and it's causing you pain and it feels like it's almost killing you, is actually the doorway to rebirth. This is where we start. Uncertain of what is behind that shell is not the enemy, it's the invitation, it's the portal. That pain, that uncertainty that we can create new versions, new reality, freedom is what it allows you Expansion, limitless potential.

Speaker 1: 9:03

The other thing I really want to bring up is when we start moving towards something that we really want, just like the chick wants to get out of that horrible phase. It's grown, it's big and the shell is too small we feel like, oh my gosh, why is life so hard? I'm trying to break free, I'm trying to move forward and I'm coming across this barrier. You make this decision I'm going to get a new job, I'm going to sort through some of these financial situations out and something goes wrong. The washing machine breaks down or the car breaks down, and then that influences how much money you have, or something happens and all your money goes towards the car or something, even though you've got this new job. It's not a negative, it's a positive. It's like the chick is breaking through those barriers.

Speaker 1: 9:58

The barriers are going to come because you're going into a new version of yourself, so we have to know that healing isn't passive. You're not going to heal, stuck Like it's not just going to happen. Time doesn't heal. The chick needs to do something. It's not going to. Time isn't going to just stop it living in a shell. There's something needs to be sparked inside of you, to be awakened the spirit that has to get angry, not to destroy, to get angry enough to claim space.

Speaker 1: 10:39

Now, the reason there is some science behind this. Ok, the reason behind this is when we've been in a toxic relationship or any kind of anything that is that's hurt you or there's any type of trauma that's got you into a space of shutdown, shutdown. Some of the symptoms that you can tell whether you're in shutdown mode in terms of the nervous system is if you feel sluggish, if you feel really tired, if you can't do the things that you used to do, or you're busy, but you're busy numbing yourself, and then you're tired. You're not really doing the things that you really need to do because you're telling yourself you don't have the time. You have to get angry. You have to go from shutdown into fight or flight to be able to get into that phase of creativity again.

Speaker 1: 11:28

So, getting angry, don't feel bad about getting angry. Don't start feeling guilt and shame about getting angry, especially if you're a woman, because, as women, we've been taught that it's bad to get angry and maybe you've been conditioned to believe that anger is bad as well. Some men believe that getting angry is bad. There's shame associated with being angry. No, sometimes being angry is the thing that can help you break through. So imagine the chick inside is stuck. It has to use some force, being angry in this small space to be able to break free. Yeah, and so that constriction, that self-doubt, that fear of being too much, when you tap into this anger, it can help you push past and awaken that part of you that's saying no, I refuse to stay small and I refuse to stay in this shell as this beautiful little chick trying to grow.

Speaker 1: 12:34

So what we need is, during this journey together, this path of healing and legacy building, because you want to actually leave something. You want to leave the world a better place than you came. I know that we all here to create some sort of legacy, but it requires something wild. It requires for you to believe and trust in yourself, not the part of you that tells you you're small. So actually believe and trust in that part of you, that is that spirit. But that faith you have to have in what you can't see.

Speaker 1: 13:15

Remember the chick it can't see what's outside. You have to have faith in the unseen, faith that, just like the universe was created from nothing, you too can create something from nothing. That is your divine inheritance. You were given everything you need to be able to do that Faith. Believing in you and trusting in yourself is a choice. You choose it. Not the narcissist, not your dad, not your mom, not your nobody else. You choose whether you are going to have trust and believe in yourself. And when everything around you screams proof that no, no, no, there's nothing out there. There's nothing. There's just this shell and there's just darkness, you choose where you can start breaking through this shell that you're in. It's really about looking at where you are If you feel dark. If you're in darkness, you don't know how to move forward. Please I'm using this analogy about the chick there's something more out there. If you feel constricted, there's something more out. You have to push through. This constriction happens because it's actually a portal to power. It's actually a portal to power.

Speaker 1: 14:36

If you feel like you're being limited, you need to push through and find what is it? What is that belief, what is that emotion? And there's four areas you really need to look at. Is it your thinking? Okay, usually a lot of the people that I talk to, their thinking is pretty sound, to be honest, because a lot of people know a lot, they have a lot of knowledge, so their thinking is pretty sound. Is it your emotions? Oh, I feel guilty, I feel shame, but I don't know what to do with these emotions, so I just stuff them down, okay, well, let's look at your emotions and guilt and shame and all the other emotions that are holding you back. Maybe you don't know how to emotionally regulate, maybe you need to do some trauma work to push through so you can get to that next level of wealth or health or relationships, whatever it is that you're really looking for.

Speaker 1: 15:26

The next thing is how does it feel in your body? Is it a nervous system situation? Feel the sensations. When you feel this feeling, do you feel like sensations of uncomfortableness? Okay, what kind of uncomfortableness is that? Do you feel it in your throat? Do you feel it in your chest? Do you feel it in your stomach? Where do you feel it? That's the sensations, that's the body sensations and that gives you an indication of where is my nervous system. And finally, is it a spiritual aspect? Do you need to explore your spiritual aspect? Most people right now are awakening to their spiritual side. Is it something that you really want to go deeper into? On looking at the spiritual aspects of you, so there's four different elements. If it is that this has resonated with you, please share this, please rate this, so that this can find its way to other people that really need it as well. I really, really deeply and I'm grateful for you completely.

Speaker 1: 16:41

If you want to push through to the next level, I am creating a new program. It's called the Prosperity Code. If you are interested in healing your relationship with power and really understanding what your purpose is so you can fulfill it, healing your relationship with prosperity so you can really step into your presence like a new level of confidence, then please do book in a one-to-one session with me. I would love to talk to you. If there is anything else that you need, maybe it's the sensations and you really need to work on your nervous system I've got a program called Calm. Please do look into the link tree. You can join that and I also have another program called Reclaim your Power. If you're finding it that it's really difficult maybe you've got a trauma bond or something there's resources available for you.

Speaker 1: 17:37

Take that step to push through that next level. Don't stay in the dark as a chick. If you feel something, get support and push through that next level and move through into that next level of being, because you are incredible and you're here to do something incredible. And remember always be loving towards yourself, no matter where you are, because that is a way to push through. It really is. You're not in the wrong place. If you're a chick stuck in a shell, we're not going to start telling ourselves there's something wrong with me just because the narcissist or somebody else is saying something to you Genuinely. There's nothing wrong. It's an opportunity, it's a calling, it's the next step to push through, to become who you're meant to be. So sending you love wherever you are Till next time.