Toxic Relationships: You Don’t Need a Guru. You Need This Truth.

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What if the very system teaching you to seek help… is the thing keeping you stuck?

In this raw and revelatory episode, Dr. Amen Kaur dismantles the programming that convinces us we need external saviors—gurus, partners, or systems—to fix our lives. The truth? You were never broken. You’ve just been taught to outsource your power.

Dive deep into the fusion of trauma healing, quantum physics, and divine consciousness. Learn how your Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters reality based on your internal beliefs, why positive thinking alone fails, and how energy, vibration, and intention shape your outcomes in life.

Through personal stories, vivid analogies, and sacred insights, this episode will help you:

• Understand why toxic relationships persist
• Heal by reclaiming your intuitive power
• Align with the 5D frequency of love
• Use intention as a real tool of transformation
• Access the quantum field of infinite possibilities

No fluff. No dogma. Just real, soul-level truth. It’s time to stop seeking outside approval and start activating your inner creator.

💥 This isn’t self-help—it’s soul liberation.
🎧 Tune in now and take your power back.

Chapters

• 0:00 Breaking Free from External Gurus
• 1:45 The Brain as a Bouncer
• 3:07 Consciousness and Quantum Physics
• 5:15 Energy Alignment and Toxic Relationships
• 9:11 The Power of Questions
• 15:43 Intention and Manifestation
• 23:02 Consciousness as the Source
• 28:37 Moving from Fear to Love

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

We've all been programmed by society to look outside of ourselves, that we need some guru or teacher or someone outside of us to tell us what we need to do to be happy. We've been programmed to go to people and we're looking for this solution we believe someone else can give us. Just tell me what to do and I'll do it. But life doesn't work that way. Mostly, we find narcissists and psychopaths in sheep's clothings that are targeting people so that they can have power and control over them, to tell them how to live their life. Of course, I'm not saying that there aren't any gurus or people with high, incredibly high consciousness and enlightened people. But it's interesting, isn't it, that when we look at all the religions and all these great people, these ascended masters, they all have asked us to trust and believe in ourself, but not to follow others. Today we're going to be looking at how we can give up trying to control the outside world and allow everything just to fall to our feet. Everything will work out for you. If we look at life from a quantum physics perspective, everything is energy, a vibration and frequency, and yes, there's different levels of vibration and frequency. There is consciousness. The pure consciousness comes in and we filter things out that don't align with our energy. And we're going to look at this like how does that work? How is it that what doesn't align with our energy, vibration and frequency is filtered out? And we're going to look at how our brain is like a bouncer at a club. There's this part of the brain that is called a reticular activating system. Imagine it like a bouncer. It's literally filtering out 11 million bits of information that are trying to get into your brain, and it's filtering everything out based on who we already. We believe we are, and the more we research consciousness, we realize it really is all about love. God is love. There is that one truth and, yes, there's thousands of ways we can get to that truth, and science has finally caught up to explaining what ascended masters and enlightened people have been trying to explain to us for a long time. So welcome to this podcast. My name's Dr Eamon Core and we're going to be exploring how do we overcome barriers, toxic relationships and any other sort of limitations that we have within ourselves so that we can fulfill our unlimited potential. If you love science and spirituality, you will love this episode.

Speaker 1: 3:07

When we look at our forefathers of quantum physics and this includes the Einsteins and Bohr. They all said that consciousness is actually the key. It's understanding that everything is energy and frequency and vibration, and that is consciousness. That is the vibration of consciousness, and it's fascinating that for so long it's taken so many science type people to embrace this truth. It's taking us a while to get to that.

Speaker 1: 3:32

So first we have to accept that we live in this world and we have been taught about materialism from day dot, that this physical reality, what we see, is the truth, and that what we can't see doesn't matter. So if you were someone that you know, as a child you might have had an imaginary friend, or you might have seen angels, or there would have been something about you that you could sense energy, and you might have loved that blanket that you personified. And yet we were told that all those things were knocked out of us as we grew up. But if we understand how things work, it can really free us to become and create the life we want, no matter where we are, and be that creative. We want no matter where we are and be that creative, happy, childlike person again. But it starts with us having to open our mind to the possibilities that there is more that we can see, and that's what quantum physics is all about.

Speaker 1: 4:38

And if you can understand this, it could completely change your life, because then you will understand love, understand God, understand consciousness, understand the creator, understand the universe Not the love the narcissist or the psychopaths tell you is love, but for you to allow yourself to receive the real thing. And it will mean that you will have to know the truth. You will experience the truth yourself, just like the Ascended Masters have been asking us to experience it for ourselves. No Ascended Master or no enlightened being can just give us something. And then we understand the truth. We have to experience it and this is why it's an inner job. We will be looking at the practical side of looking at consciousness and the effects this has on you on a daily life. It's a practical guide. It affects you. That's why religion was trying to teach us the way of living our life. Yeah, and there's all these different religions pretty much saying, if you filter it all down, saying God is love. And that's how understanding quantum physics and understanding consciousness, or the creator, or God, or the way you want to do it, will change your life.

Speaker 1: 6:08

And we need to set aside our preconceived ideas, our training, our programming, because the way our brain works is that we take on information that aligns with what we already believe, and if it doesn't align, we think it's false. Let me give you an example, okay, of understanding this whole thing. That, yeah. So let's go back to the bouncer at the front of the club. So your club is your brain. Everyone wants to get into your brain. Every bit of information wants to get into your brain, because your brain is the place where it's happening in your world. It's just the place to be. And all this information wants to come in and it's 11 million bits and the bouncer at the club is saying, hey, my name is reticular activating system and hey, hey, you can't come in because your vibe doesn't match our culture. I can tell by your vibe, the way you're dressed, the way you look, the way you feel. I don't really like your attitude. Actually and it might not even be something they've said they just don't like the vibe and the frequency and the way they look to come in. They don't match your culture. That's already in your brain, the culture of the club. Okay, they're only filtering in a certain amount of information or a certain amount of people and that's why what we already believe is actually creating the life that we're experiencing. So if we believe we're not worthy of love, or I'm not worthy, no one will love me deep, deep, deep down. We will only allow those people that will match that frequency and that vibe into our life.

Speaker 1: 8:06

I remember when I used to go into work and it was a bit of a toxic environment and it got really toxic towards the end, because sometimes you get changes in situations and it was a real toxic environment and I'd literally try my best because I was really into positive thinking, et cetera at that time and I didn't really understand emotions and how important emotions are and how important trauma therapy is. So at that time, I was really focusing on just numbing down my emotions and really trying to think positive, think positive. Focusing on just numbing down my emotions and really trying to think positive, think positive. So I'm coming in to work every day and I literally am pumping myself with all these positive things and then, as soon as I walked in through the door, it was like someone had come with a massive hoover and just sucked all the positive energy out of me. I just felt drained.

Speaker 1: 9:04

So I want you to think back to a scenario where you have experiences, you're in a really good mood and you go into a place and it just feels it's just all the energy has been sucked out of you. You just feel like you've spoken to somebody or you've been around a certain friend and then all the energy is just you're drained. And then all the energy is just drained Because the frequency of them or of what you discussed was much lower that that positive energy vibration could no longer align with it, so it had to go. So everything is aligning. Energy and frequency aligns together. That's why who you're around matters so much, because your energy and your frequency has to align with the environment and the people and what you're around. So hence why sometimes just going out into nature helps your vibration and your frequency lift and you feel a bit of peace.

Speaker 1: 10:06

And that's why beginner's mind is so important. But it's easier said than done. But being open-minded and just having the intention of saying you know what I'm going to, accept that I don't know everything and that perhaps what I do know isn't helping me to create the life that I want, so being open-minded is literally the ability to change your life. It's the first step. Just think about it. Why do people stay in toxic relationships? Because they believe they can't survive without that toxic person. Because we've been programmed to believe that. And then other people around us might say things like but this is all programming to tell you that you need to stay in a toxic environment. So in order for us to change and detox from toxic patterns, we have to have new beliefs. But it's not just new beliefs. It's like the vibration and the frequency of those beliefs have to be more aligned to our higher self or a higher level of consciousness. We don't want to shut ourself off from the infinite possibilities that are available to us.

Speaker 1: 11:36

And, let's face it, most of our beliefs are not based on studies. It's not, I believe. Say, if I used to believe men don't love or is it something silly, because I've never seen a man love a woman growing up? Well, did I go away and study that for and get a hundred different men for, or a thousand different men, and study whether that is true or not? No, I didn't do it the scientific way. Most beliefs are picked up from culture, so they're not based on what's true.

Speaker 1: 12:12

A lot of the time we have trauma on being told that being different is bad or doing things differently is not right, but based on who? Hence we feel devalued then for the rest of our life, like I'm not good enough. Because we try and then spend the rest of our life trying to prove our worth because we were devalued at a young age, but based on no facts. It's not based on any facts. It's not based on the truth. So most people don't see being different as just being normal, that hey, I've got talents and insights that maybe you don't, and my uniqueness is what is so incredible. That is true, your uniqueness, what makes you different, what makes you stand out, what makes you not be like everybody else, is your insights, your gifts, is your insights, your gifts, and that's what makes you so incredible.

Speaker 1: 13:19

Now, questions are so important. If you ask a question, you will get an answer. This is how the consciousness is forever asking, answering your questions. So if you believe in God and right now you're in a toxic relationship you have to ask the right questions. You have to ask God or consciousness or the universe, not. Why is this happening to me? Why does everything go wrong for me? Because you'll get the answer. Oh, everything does keep going wrong for you until you realize who you truly are. Or you ask the question realise who you truly are, or you ask the question how can I know I'm worthy? How can I know I am loved? How can I know? How is it that I feel so loved? That's why asking questions like this is so powerful that you will get the answer and you will start shifting your life just through the questions that you ask. So I really want you to think about what are you asking? What are you asking Because the answers will come.

Speaker 1: 14:34

This is the thing we don't realize that we're understanding from consciousness, that we are connected to this consciousness. This quantum mechanics is saying that if you ask questions, you will get the answer. So be careful what you ask for. What we see isn't real, but it's based on what's going on in our own mind. We think what we see is real, but it's not. It's the way we're interpreting it in our own mind, in our brain. That is what we're seeing. For instance, what we see as colours is different from someone who sees colours, who might be colourblind. Okay, so they're seeing their reality based on their own mind, their own brain. So it's not actually real. This is what quantum physics is telling us, everything you see isn't real. It's the way you're interpreting it. So if you request information, it's going to be available for you. So the questions you ask are so important. So in order to prepare for these answers, we have to prepare by creating a relationship with the universe.

Speaker 1: 15:53

If you want to get answers, you have to put aside your intellectual side and connect back to your intuitive side. Intellectual is logic, intuitive is it has nothing to do with logic. So this is why you want to get back to what you were like before as a child. I'm not saying not use your cognitive thinking part of the brain A hundred percent. You want to use it. But you have to develop that intuitive side of your mind again.

Speaker 1: 16:30

We've been conditioned to disbelieve our gut instinct and that's why we are in toxic relationships. If you could connect back to your intuition, you would see the red flags, because you're listening to your gut, you're listening to your heart, you're listening to your intuition and it's telling you with a red flag. But we've been conditioned to see things in a certain way and give meaning based on what other people have told us it means. But what if we can change that meaning? Gaslighting is basically someone else telling us and changing our reality of what we see. That's why, in a way, gaslighting can explain quantum physics in some way. How is it that someone can change our reality? Well, changing the reality means that you want your new reality to support you, to achieve peace, love, prosperity, so you stay connected to what it is, that you want your dreams to be possible again, just like you were a child who was ready to go out in the world and create the life that they wanted and make a real difference in the world.

Speaker 1: 17:48

The thing is, your intention is so powerful and there's experiments, right when people pray for someone, they don't know how it works, but their intention modifies the probability of the future of that person so that they have a new possibility of being healed. This is quantum physics. Talk, by the way, sorry. So basically, why does it work? Well, it works because your prayer, your intention for someone to do better, helps them have a new possibility for them. That's why you can heal. You can help people heal and be happy through having a more positive intention.

Speaker 1: 18:34

This is why sympathy is not a good thing. Okay, like just hear me out. Empathy is great, but sympathy, like feeling sorry for someone. We just see them as powerless to change for the future. We don't want to sympathize and agree with someone yeah, your life is terrible. We want to give them empathy and have understanding, but also have a new intention for that person to say I see them well, I pray for them, I see them well, and that is so powerful because you are opening up a new possibility for them. So you pray for yourself, you pray for your children, you pray for your children's children, you pray for whoever you can.

Speaker 1: 19:25

Whenever you're struggling, you will find a way through. You will find a new possibility, a new door opening up for you so that you can succeed, so that you can make changes and new choices to create a new future. This is tapping into your power. Where we are now, we have a probability of the future, yeah, but as we change our intention, the probability of that intention changes the probability of new outcomes. For us, this is a probability game, and so you know, from a quantum physics perspective, and the process itself isn't important, ok, the intention is important. The process allows you to be able to access the consciousness, or that quietness, to be able to connect back to your intuition and apply a new intention, okay. This is why, if you are with someone or you're going to a therapist and they haven't done the healing work themselves or they aren't able to quiet their own mind to be able to create a new intention for you, yeah, and sometimes if someone's got a lot of baggage, they find it really difficult to create a new intention for others. So it's basically our intention that opens up the possibility. So the process of preparing your mind might be some trauma work so that you can quiet your mind, you can release the emotions, the energy, so that you can then quiet down and feel peace, so you can have more positive intentions for your life, so that we can get past that monkey mind and access that deep level where you know you can do it. Like Ford said, if you believe you can do it, you can. If you believe you can't, you can't. This is very profound what he said. It's so simple but it's profound. So if you can intend a new possibility, you open up that opportunity.

Speaker 1: 21:46

This is the biggest hurdle we have to overcome is how far you can connect with your intuition so you can allow this consciousness data to come through. And if we can allow that data to come through, we can get access to it without seeing it. So there's been so many experiments. Let me explain. There's been so many experiments where people have been blindfolded and asked what's in front of them and they cannot see. And yet they can see what's in front of them and we have to go okay.

Speaker 1: 22:22

Well, how does that happen exactly? And if you've studied NDEs, which is near-death experiences, you will know that actually we are not the body, but we're actually able. We have this ability, this consciousness, to access information. So that's your intuition. It's like you're accessing that information. It's like your ability to work through any problem through accessing information. And what we need to do is get out of the programming, get away from the people that have power and control over us, so that we don't connect with our higher self or our intuition or our own guidance system, but we believe in them instead.

Speaker 1: 23:13

And that intuitive side rather than focusing on intellect alone because you can't think your way out of this situation when you're with trauma, to this level of trauma you can't think your way out of a lot of problems that have trauma it's actually being able to access the intuitive side. That's why, if you look at billionaires and you look at doing what they say, you will see that they use their intellect as well as their intuition. They use their intuition, they use the two together. So you know they're using that to actually access the genius side of them. Sometimes you see this in autism as well. They have an ability to access information that other people may not have access to because they're using the intellectual side and because their intellect isn't working in the same way. They remove that problem, if you like, and they can access, maybe a superpower, so they might have the ability to remember things or access that data that we think that, wow, they're just like super intelligent. Wow, they're just like super intelligent.

Speaker 1: 24:44

Yeah, so what we have to do is understand that we all have the intention, the power of intention, to create the life that we want. Honestly, you have. This is science. I'm trying to explain to you. You can get out of any problem because this is, in a way, this is what people are talking about manifestation techniques and stuff. It makes complete sense. Our intention is modifying the future probabilities, using, if we're thinking about it from science perspective, and our intent, if it comes from our higher self, a cleaner consciousness.

Speaker 1: 25:20

It goes further. If we have a noisy mind. It doesn't work. If your intention is, well, I hope I have something for the future. I hope it doesn't have any power, because an intention is intuitive, it's not intellectual. You feel it, you go deep and you feel it with your whole body and you keep it in your mind and you know when you really want someone that you love to get better. That is intent. You intend for them and then you go about your business and every now and again you come back to and say I really, really want them to get better and you really feel that wish, that desire in your whole body. Like you experience it.

Speaker 1: 26:07

And this is a system of manifestation and really truly is about love. It's about us understanding who we are and treating us ourself and others with more kindness and care, the purpose of why we're here. If we can serve that purpose and we allow ourself to be of service to others deeply, we then can go beyond ourself. But if we're programmed to believe that someone outside of us will get us there, like the narcissist or the whatever, it's not going to work. No one's going to give us anything. It's an inside job. You don't have to follow anyone. The only thing you have to do is change yourself. Other people can support you. Yes, you can get trauma work, you can get all of that and people will support you through. But you, and only you, can move yourself within yourself spiritually to know and understand how powerful you are and how you are the creator. And you can do it and you can create the life of your dreams because the power is within you.

Speaker 1: 27:19

And if we look at all religions, they all have something in common and I've studied a lot of different religions. I'm not saying I've studied all the religions, but I have studied a lot of spiritual texts in my desire to get out of toxic relationship patterns. And, yes, I've studied a lot of science. And the one common thing they have is God is love. This is universal. It's the one truth.

Speaker 1: 27:47

And consciousness is fundamental. It's the source, it's a system, it's like an information system and this body is a way of you being able to experience that system. So it's an awareness. We have all these senses to take in information from everything around us and we are here and we exist and we're conscious of that. And consciousness is about becoming aware of the data and processing that data that is coming in and when we can't process that data, our system gets overloaded and it gets stuck and our brain gets stuck and that's kind of trauma and until we can process that data, we can't move forward cleanly as we used to.

Speaker 1: 28:42

So the way we work, right, imagine it like the steps we take in data. So we see things, we take in all this data, we process that data in our brain and we check everything with our memory. So we look back and see, okay, what do I already believe? Oh, and then we work out okay, what am I going to do about this data? What reaction is going to happen to this data? So that's the output. And what does this sound like A computer system? Right, it's like our body is an amazing, incredible computer system to experience consciousness and we have a choice Every moment of every day.

Speaker 1: 29:27

We are either aware or we're not aware. If there's confusion, that means there's too much data that is stuck and we can't do anything and we just need to clean up the data. If we have less data, if we're clean and everything's flowing and the energy is flowing and the frequency is flowing and the consciousness is flowing, we can organize and seem to make sense of information and we're able to release any trapped information or any trapped energy, so that we can then be like a clearer conduit. So imagine like we're pipes, yeah, and we're here to experience. We're really super duper, amazing pipes and we're here to experience and become conscious of becoming more and allowing more and more love in and more and more love out, and becoming more and more conscious of that.

Speaker 1: 30:24

If we can simplify and move away from complexity of fear because fear is complexity and we can release all the leaks of energy where we're not allowing ourself to hold love and be love and give love, we then have to just do the inner work and heal up the leaks and release all the blocks that we have and they might be energy blocks of emotions or pain from the past, or these thoughts, the trauma work, the childhood work that we need to clear. We can allow this consciousness that is power, has purpose, has prosperity, has love, has presence, all of it to flow through us and become that and we can make decisions of I'm going to focus on love and then the whole world will start to shift and change. For you and the more of us that can focus on this, on love, the more the world will change and for those people that have been more spiritually aligned. We are moving from a world of 3D to 5D. The 3D world is all about fear, living in all these power over struggles. 5d is more living in the world of the vibration and frequency of love, where you will stop seeing people that you used to see. You won't be around people that you were around, people naturally not want to be part of your life.

Speaker 1: 32:09

Moving forward as you embody more and more the frequency of love and you will have more prosperity, more purpose, etc. So look, look. I really hope this has given you the the intention of creating space and really looking at giving yourself space to regulate your emotions and knowing that it's possible for you to have the life of your dreams. You can do it and to really start cultivating that. And if that is something that you're looking to work towards, you can book in a one-to-one session with me I'm going through a bit of a change myself and we can look at how potentially we can work together, yes, so that we can create the life of your dreams. Sending you so much love, genuinely. My intent is that you receive love. I love you so much Till next time.