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You’re Not Broken — Your Operating System Is.

• Dr Amen Kaur

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You’re not stuck because you’re broken.
 You’re stuck because you’re running an outdated internal operating system — and no one ever taught you how to upgrade it.

In this breakthrough episode, I reveal the real reason you keep looping the same patterns… even after all the healing, the mindset work, the journaling, the affirmations, the therapy, the breathwork, the shadow work, and the manifesting.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why your biology, identity, and consciousness rarely evolve at the same speed
 ✨ The hidden OS running your life without your permission
 ✨ Why you sabotage yourself right when things get good
 ✨ The science of interoception — and how it determines your future
 ✨ How to interrupt emotional loops, freeze, shutdown, and overwhelm
 ✨ How to finally step into the identity you’ve been trying to grow into

If you’ve ever felt:
 “Something’s wrong with me,”
 or
 “Why do I keep repeating this?”
 this episode will change everything.

This is not mindset.
 This is architecture.

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This transcript explores the connection between the nervous system, identity, and subconscious operating patterns. Learn why emotional loops, self-sabotage, and trauma responses repeat - and how interoception and OS upgrades can transform your life. Let's start with something that might feel a bit uncomfortable, but it is the truth. You're not stuck because you're broken. You're stuck because you're running your life on an outdated internal operating system. And no one has taught you how to upgrade it. So just take a breath and let that land. Because the moment you really understand this, your whole life, your entire life, suddenly will make sense to you. That quiet fear of what if there's something wrong with me? That feeling that sometimes comes about that it must be me. That sabotaging, that looping, the emotional spirals. The why do I keep doing this moments or why does this always happen to me? The shrinking that happens when you should actually be rising. It's not mindset, it's not discipline, it's not fear alone, it's not because you're not healed enough. It's actually architecture. And today I'm going to show you exactly how it works. You know how to break the loop forever. Because if you can truly understand this, so much of your pain will dissolve. And you will know, and you will finally move forward with clarity and confidence and the ability to create the life you've wanted for years. And know it's possible for you. So let's go. Let's do this. Hear this as if your future self depends on it. Your life is not being run by your goals, your desires, or your intentions. Those really do matter, they give you direction, but that's not what determines your results. Maybe you realize that. Maybe you're trying still to get there. But the truth is your life is being run by your operating system. It's like your internal operating system. And if you want success, fulfillment, wealth, visibility, love, joy, happiness, if you want it, if you want anything, your operating system has to be aligned with what it is that you want. It's basic truth here. Because success is not determined by how old you are, it doesn't matter what gender you are, what race you are, or your privilege, or how many degrees you have. It really isn't determined by any of that. And you can see that in society. We've got successful people of all different ranges. It's actually determined by the alignment between who you are internally and what you're trying to achieve externally, your goals. And if your operating system isn't aligned, you're not going to achieve what it is that you want. So let's look at what makes up your operating system. It has three distinct layers: the biology, okay? Your safety mechanism. You can't ignore that you have a biology, you're a body, and you have a nervous system, and your nervous system is governed by your brain. It's regulating all the time your capacity to move forward. And it determines how much expansion you can hold. This is biology, it's science. It's not anything to do with you in particular and your goals or whether you can or can't do it. If your biology feels unsafe, it will cancel every goal you have without your conscious permission. It will slow you down. Some trigger will come along and it will make you feel like, oh, I can't move forward. It's not because you're weak, it's not because you're not able to do it, it's not because the universe is saying it's not possible for you. But it's because your biology, the biology of your safety mechanism, its job is to protect you and it's doing that. The second part of your operating system is your identity. And that's another autopilot situation going on, right? You have no control over it. It takes over. It's basically all the rules, the patterns, and the conditioning that has been placed in you from childhood. It's how you identify with you to who what it is that you are meant to do. If you were taught, for instance, to be quiet, polite, pleasing, agreeable when you were younger, then when you try and speak up in meetings, or you try and launch a business, or you try and ask for what you want, or you try and take up space, or you try and receive more, your identity will block your new reality of what you're trying to do. Because your learned survival roles of the caretaker, the people pleaser, the achiever, the quiet one, the fixer, the good girl, the be pretty and stay quiet will run much faster than anything you're thinking about, the goals that you're putting in place. The identity directs your behavior before you even realize a choice was even made. So hence why you do something and then you think about it afterwards and then you think, why did I do that? Why didn't I do that? It's either your biology or your identity here that's in play. And you cannot outrun it. Even and so don't get frustrated with yourself, please. It's just really understanding that it's not your fault. The third aspect is your consciousness, your vision, your clarity, your intuition. There is a spiritual part to you. Your ever lay ever elevated perception, your wanting to be more, your future self calling you for it. This is the part of you saying, I know I'm meant to do more, I know I'm meant for more, but I don't know why I can't get there. And here's the punchline: these three layers almost never evolve at the same time. This is where the problem is, and that means your system is actually taking up energy to fight itself. Okay? Your consciousness is in the future. Your identity is in the past, and your biology is basically clinging to whatever is familiar. It's in the past as well. So if you ever feel frustrated, you're thinking, oh, why can't I move forward? Why haven't I done this? Other people are doing it, why I know I can do it, but why am I not doing it? I'm explaining to you why. This internal civil war creates mixed signals, sabotage, freeze, pullbacks, emotional looping, the trauma responses, almost breakthroughs followed by a collapse. You nearly got there and then or you sabotage yourself. And then you start thinking it's your fault, you start being annoyed at yourself, but it's not. It's just your outdated operating system. That's it. That's the entire issue. So just relax and know that it's that is your operating system. So let's really be brutally clear. Because I want you to do well, I want you to succeed. When your biology goes into survival, your identity is activating like old protective patterns, and your consciousness level, your consciousness shrinks. Your system asks one question: what is the fastest way back to familiar? Not what's gonna expand me, what aligns with my purpose, what do I desire, what's my next level? It's not aligned for that. So that's why it's not doing that. Your system is choosing familiar over everything. That's why you can get close to success and then feel that panic internally that maybe you're covering up. You might want abundance, but then your body contracts and say, Oh, it's not possible for me. And oh, I don't have this degree, or I don't have this, or whatever it is that you think. You try and be visible, and your system shuts down in that meeting or that before you do use social media, or you feel your purpose, but you freeze or procrastinate, or you think that you need more information. You're not broken. Your operating system is doing exactly what it's designed to do: protect a past identity. And the truth is you can't out-read books and get over this, you can't out-aff do affirmations and get over this, you can't out-manifest this, you can't out-heal this, or you can't out-journal any of this. You must upgrade the architecture because you're a whole system. You're not just your your goals of got a system. Here's where most people finally wake up. There is one mechanism inside you that determines whether you repeat the past or you embody your future, and it's called introsceptive processing. Introsception is your ability to sense your internal state before, before it hijacks your behavior. Here's the billion-dollar truth. Okay, if you want to be a billion dollar person, here it is. If you can't feel the shift early, you can't change the pattern. Most people notice the contraction, the shutdown, the freeze, the numbness, the overwhelm, the overthinking, the emotional spiral after it's already running them. By then the identity has taken over. This is not a mindset issue. This is biology, okay? This is science. You have a body, but when your introspens, you can feel the shift before it becomes the behavior. You interrupt the loop before autopilot takes over. And then you choose your future before your body chooses from your past. That's how evolution actually works. Not through willpower, but through early awareness. Here's one tool powerful enough to change your trajectory, change your direction, change where you're heading in just five seconds. So you can do it with me. Let's do it together. Put one hand on your heart and one on your belly and take a slow inhale, hold, and just sigh it out. Now ask something. What identity is running me right now? Is it your protector? Is it your overachiever? Is it your overthinker? Is it your people pleaser? Is it your wounded child or your silent good girl or good boy? Or your performer that feels that you have to perform for the world? Or the identity that you are becoming. The identity I am becoming. This question breaks autopilot. It creates neurological space and returns authority to you. This is how loops can end. This is the first step in upgrading your operating system. And if you're listening and thinking, I know I'm meant for more, I know it deep in my soul, I know I can feel the next version of me. But something keeps pulling me back, and I'm unclear on what I'm meant to do and how I'm meant to do, and what the details of what I'm meant to do, and I don't know why. And if you want 2026 to be the year that everything shifts for you, then you need my free masterclass. Not because it's inspirational, but because it gives you the biology, the architecture of your system. You'll learn inside this like why your patterns repeat, no matter how much mindset work you do, or the safety mechanism that derails your expansion, or the identity running your life without your consent. The first step to stabilizing towards your future self and how to stop looping more money, more visibility, more love, more purpose, more energy. This is not theory, this is the biology of success. It's your operating system, and it upgrades, and it can start here. And if you're interested in doing that, the link is in the show notes. Here's the truth. I want resonating in your body. You don't become your future self through more effort, that just leads to burnout, okay, eventually. Where you feel like you've lost yourself. You become that person that you want to become through architecture. That's the easy way. And when your operating system evolves, everything in your life will reorganize. Your confidence, your emotional patterns, your money, your relationships, your purpose, your ability to hold the life you want. You're not behind, you're not broken, there is absolutely nothing wrong. You're just standing at the threshold of the biggest identity upgrade of your life. That's your evolution. It's actually you're being asked to evolve. It's inevitable. Know that you can become what you want to become. So become it. Until next time, I'm sending you so much love.